Some experts think women have a problem with their language. Too soft-spoken, too accommodating, apologetic and self-deprecating, females undermine themselves in the business world. Others think society is the one with the problem.
Nevertheless, there is a new Chrome app to solve this. “Just Not Sorry” is a plug-in for Gmail that highlights when you type “just” or “sorry,” and underlines those plus other namby-pamby words. It appears as though you’ve misspelled something, and thus alerted, women can lean in and substitute more direct forms of communication. It takes three minutes to download, then every email is reviewed for certain triggers. The idea is that when women qualify their speech, it minimizes their presence and invites others to walk all over them.
“Just Not Sorry” has triggered a many-splendored response.
Some women are enthusiastic and downloads already number in the thousands. Opponents say women who don’t minimize themselves are considered maximum bitches. Then there are feminists who wonder where the app is that stops people from judging women.
It’s true, language is gendered and an astute reader can tell immediately if the passage was written by a male or female. And while no one contests that “Does this make sense?” should be stricken from everyone’s vocabulary, it’s also been argued by experts that women tend to use linguistic forms which reflect and reinforce a subordinate role in society, and it’s a fact women’s language is often characterized by formal and deferential politeness.
That said, the words “sorry” and “just” are absolutely necessary to women in business communication.
As in, “Sorry, I didn’t respond sooner about getting together after work. Just let me check with your wife.”
Patricia Gannon covers society for The Acadiana Advocate. She can be reached at email@example.com.
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