One St. Helena: You Are Not Entitled _lowres

Jasper Knighten

Are you perplexed on a daily basis? Do you have a thorn in your side that no one knows about but you? All of us have been plagued and haunted by some ordeal or circumstance that on the outside looking in will never change for the better.

Hidden frustration has haunted generation after generation. Hidden frustration is not discriminatory or biased. It has no prior warning. It seemly shows up at the most inopportune times.

Frustration, if not dealt with properly and addressed in a way that prevents it from hampering your psychological and emotional life, can be extremely damaging to one’s life.

What causes hidden frustration? Why is it that so many of us wrestle with frustration and never seek help?

Millions of people struggle on a daily basis because they are frustrated with something they are entangled in. Life’s expectations have a way of making us frustrated.

At the onset of any chapter of life, we enter it with great expectations, only to have expectations dashed by the realities of life.

Newlyweds are crushed once they realize the realities of marriage. Once giddy, newly hired employees are crushed once they realize their job is not as they envisioned. Zealous entrepreneurs are disappointed once their attempts at having a successful business are elusive.

We may not have experienced any of those examples, but in some way, we can relate to the growing frustration a person in those circumstances faces. The key to dealing with hidden frustration is to keep a positive outlook on life. Yes, life can make you feel defeated at times. Yes, there are times when it seems logical to just throw in the towel and surrender.

In order to avoid living with regret and letting frustration rule your life, push further. Life is about determination. We have to come to the realization that the rosy, flowery beds of ease we conjure up in our heads do not exist. We do not live in a perfect world. Nothing has or ever will go the way we expect it to go. Life is meant to be a puzzle with lots of twists and turns. The answer to life’s twists and turns is to learn how to take the twists and turns head-on without blinking.

There is no place for hidden frustration in any of our lives. Instead of being filled with doubts, anxiety and disappointment, we should be filled with love, hope and charisma. Life is too precious and short to waste it pondering disappointments and mishaps. Pledge to let go of whatever you are holding on to. Do not let it poison you any longer. You deserve freedom.

Your mind and heart are waiting to experience freedom from the bondage of frustration. Living a life free from frustration is possible for each of us.

The only way to living a frustration-free life is to look ahead and never look back.

Keep moving forward, St. Helena. Do not live another second of your life frustrated.

Forgive, forget and move on.

Contact Jasper Knighten at jasperknighten@yahoo.com.