Comedian finds wisdom, wisecracks in ’90s self-help book _lowres

Photo provided -- New York comedian John Frusciante: 'It's all very universal. ... This is exactly what I’m like. This is exactly what my wife is like.'

If your relationship with your significant other is one of pure, unadulterated bliss, read no further.

You have permission to take your love by the hand and skip off into the sunset, singing doo-wop duets and making each other flower necklaces.

For the rest of us, there’s hope.

The 1992 hit book by John Gray, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus,” has been helping weary couples make sense of each other ever since, but those who can’t even get their significant other to argue fairly, let alone read a book on relationships, might try the live stage show at the Joy Theater on Friday, May 29.

“Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus Live!” marries relationship advice from the best-seller with comedy.

The one-man show features New York comedian and actor John Frusciante, who admitted that he, like many husbands, was skeptical of the book back when his wife asked him to read it.

“As a man, at first you’re kind of like, ‘Wait a minute, what is this? What’s going on?’ As you read the material you start to see it’s all very universal. This is exactly what I do. This is exactly what I’m like. This is exactly what my wife is like,” he said.

Video clips of “Men Are From Mars” author Gray are mixed with Frusciante’s familiar-sounding examples from his own marriage.

“In the show I talk about the differences in how my wife and I deal with ordinary household things like cooking,” he said. “She’s a very good cook and is able to multitask and do all these things at once while cooking pasta. Meanwhile, I’m only able to do one thing at once, which is start the hot water and just stare at it.”

Frusciante thinks that the age of social media makes it easier to connect with other people but not necessarily to communicate with them.

“My wife and I can be in the same room together, but we’re both looking at our laptops or phones,” he said.

“I think things like this show are a good opportunity for people to get out and have a shared experience where they watch, hopefully, themselves onstage.”

But the principles apply regardless of relationship status.

“There are a lot of husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, couples that come to the show and enjoy it,” the comedian said. “But I think that if somebody did want to understand a little more about the opposite sex or maybe even the way they are in relationships, the show would benefit them.”

Frusciante says that he can see couples growing closer over the course of the show, as they laugh at themselves and with each other.

It’s a lighter, more casual way to rekindle or re-examine a relationship, and for some of us hopeless romantics, it might be just the ticket.

“I think one of the great things about doing the show is watching couples in the audience go from just sitting next to each other, and at some point during the middle of the show they’re holding hands or have their arms around each other. By the end of the show, somebody’s head is on somebody’s shoulder and they’re pointing and laughing, ‘That’s you!’ ‘That’s me!’

“It’s not couples therapy, but it definitely uses theater and comedy to help couples understand each other better.”

“Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Live” is at the Joy Theater on May 29 at 7 p.m.

More information about the show can be found at