Come all ye young huggers and listen to me. Social kissing’s bad enough, now this.

Millennials have brought their college customs to the workplace and among them is hugging. The men hug the men, the women hug the women, the men hug the women and they’re going to hug you. Hugging’s here and those of you reared on handshakes had better prepare.

Lafayette’s Lynley Jones, of Grace Notes, an etiquette endeavor to further society’s niceties, says, “It’s very confusing for older people, especially for older men who remember a time before women were (prevalent) in business. They don’t know what to do. People are getting too comfortable. Hugs are reserved for family.”

Getting it right is not easy either. There’s the social combination of hug ’n’ kiss, the mixed handshake and slap on the back, and the handshake-c’mere you grab and hug. But since Americans worship youth and casual ways, better grab hold of this advice:

For millennials: Hug each other. Don’t hug your betters and whatever you do, don’t hug the boss. Otherwise you’re like a puppy jumping on people. Sit. Stay. Shake hands.

Ladies: To hug a man, you must know him or his wife well. There’s a word for women who embrace strange men. If he’s young enough to be your son, make it quick ’n’ maternal. If he works for you, no is best.

Gentlemen: If a woman has status in the business world, shake her hand instead. If you decide to go in for a hug, steer clear of her cosmetics and barely brush her, as men of old used to do with the hand. If she’s half your age, cut it out.

Patricia Gannon covers society for The Acadiana Advocate. She can be reached at or at

Apollo announces royalty

Never a dull moment. Apollo’s handsome men announced their royal majesties King Apollo XXXIX David Moore and Queen Apollo Danny Davis, both of Youngsville. The couple made a grand arrival by limo at the home of Billy Evans and Jimmy Poole, where they were toasted by well-wishers, including soon-to-be-past monarchs Mitch Reed and Kendrick Benoit, event wizards Ted Viator and Bob Pastor, ball Captain Sherman Mire, former King Rusty Phillips, Jamie Graves, Darrell Frugé and Richard Foard. Apollo’s chosen a Cirque de Soleil theme this season and will sell out — a word to the wise.

Bonaparte welcomes the season

Always an attractive bunch, the Krewe of Bonaparte held its Fall Cocktail Social at The Petroleum Club, the better to mingle with new members. The next Napoleon and Josephine were there — but we don’t dare — along with President Julie Dronet and past king-turned historian pro tem Marty Audiffred, Mitt and Dawn Fuqua, Margie and David Orgeron, Neal and Ashley Guidry, Steve Raggio and Greater Southwest Mardi Gras Association honcho Michael Gibbens. The Phat Hats played, everybody stayed and the seafood was superb.

Under the Big Top

Every bit the surprise they said it’d be. The Lafayette General Foundation pitched the biggest tent to date for its new ’n’ improved gala and reserved the Heymann Center parking lot to boot. It was circus-busy under The Big Top, with a working carrousel in the middle, sword swallowers, a bearded lady and carnival hijinks for days, all to the delight of more than 500 black tie-optional guests. Pretty entertaining in their own right were founding director of Cardiovascular Institute of the South Dr. Craig Walker, Richard and Elaine Zuschlag, gentlemanly Dave Comeaux, Ed and Elaine Abell, Ann Fenstermaker, Madelyn Boustany Juneau, Sen. Fred Mills, university President E.J. Savoie, the Bread & Circus pumpkin soup and Julie Falgout, who said, “This is way more fun than a sit-down dinner.” We agree.