Alright, ladies, just quit it. Stop starting your cocktail conversations with “I’m not a feminist, but …” and then finish with whatever political, social or economic statement you’ve started to make in public.

You’re a feminist or you wouldn’t be speaking up politically, socially or economically in public.

The definition of a feminist is one who adheres to feminism, or the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social and economic equality to men. It means you hate the game, not the players. It means you think a woman is as good as a man in these areas, that Angela Merkel should run Germany instead of cooking schnitzel and, what’s more, get paid a lot of deutsch marks to do it.

What’s bothering you could be the –ist on the end of the word, as in egotist, chauvinist, narcissist, sadist and arsonist. Don’t worry, these are predominantly masculine words and nearly always apply to men. Then there’s fascist, which nobody likes, and socialist and communist, which Republicans dislike.

Or maybe it’s the cafeteria mentality that you can choose A, but not B, the belief that you can serve up the politics but hold the name, please; that you can cherry-pick your way politically and still be a nice girl. Sorry, but politics is not a nice game and the men that play it are frequently not all that nice either.

And there we may have the answer at last. It’s altogether possible many women won’t own the f-word because they still believe deep down it makes them not-nice, unattractive to men, and they might not get to drive his Mercedes.

A feminist could buy her own Mercedes.

Author Visits Lafayette

Pulitzer Prize finalist Luis Urrea stopped for cocktails and dinner at the Petroleum Club with longtime friend Darryl Bourque and Friends of the Humanities. An invitation two years in the making, the author and poet was well worth the wait. “Luis has been an incredible person to know,” said Bourque.

“We were ponytail boys back then,” said Urrea. “I drove out here in ’96 and it changed my life forever. I’ve missed it ever since.” Listening to Urrea speak has the same effect, and giving him a key to the city as well as a standing ovation were Mayor Joey Durel, Linda Alesi, Ellen Patton, Dr. Ann Dobie, Dr. Mary Ann Wilson, Suzan Allen, and Carol and Ron Gomez. We loved every minute of this one.

Hilliard Talks on WWII

The University Art Museum welcomed Paul Hilliard himself for a special discussion with curator Keith Huxen from the WWII Museum in New Orleans. Just in time for Veterans Day, the presentation was offered in conjunction with UAM’s exhibitions of Russian art and photography after WWII. Not a bad way to mark the museum’s 10th anniversary either, and guests were treated to a cake and coffee reception afterwards, including Congressman Charles Boustany, U.S. Attorney Stephanie Finley, Western District of Louisiana, Joel and Janet Gooch, Sheila Lopez and Frank Creaghan.

November ArtWalk

Everyone who was anyone turned out for Lafayette society’s once-a-month downtown promenade. Art illuminati and social swans alike gathered at the Acadiana Center for the Arts for the unveiling of the Festival 2015 art piece, Radial Forms Four #4 by Troy Dugas, including University President E.J. Savoie, AcA director Gerd Wuestemann and board member Sharon Moss, artist Frances Pavy, and UAM director LouAnne Greenwald. But there was more in store as always, and not too shabby either was Brian St. Cyr and his “white trash Mondrian”, Brandon Ballengée’s Ghosts of the Gulf in the side gallery, and Shawne Major’s mixed media Nadir — you have to love the subtext of bridesmaid dresses and poultry netting.

Oil Center Art Opening

Kerry Griechen’s photography saw the light of day at a classy Oil Center exhibition hosted by Jeromy Young. “I’m thrilled to have the opportunity to display,” said Griechen, whose focus is the New Orleans streetscape, Acadiana and industrial compositions. “I shoot anything that looks good to me.” Everything looked good to us, including Jarunee McBride, her custom designed necklace, Mary Ann Diel, Vernon Moret, Jr., the French wine and Bob Adams, Griechen’s mentor, who said, “He undercharges.”